Humans can be difficult people and few of us have learnt problem solving on how to deal with the complexities of being and working with others. We are not to blame if things get messy - conflict is after all a natural part of life. But with ongoing and painful conflict, once we become aware that it's just not working, it's simply costing us too much or we want something more, then coaching can make all the difference to bringing about change.


Here is another take on the word advice that could shed light on the situation: 

What's happening inside you?:

Ask yourself what you find most difficult about the person or situation.

Deep down how do you feel when they are like this?

Verify - Is this a feeling you are familiar with?

Investigate - Does this remind you of a previous negative experience? Is there a quality in them that you feel is unacceptable?  Are they getting some need met that you are not? These things will hook you into being upset with the person, disliking them or judging them and make it harder to find a solution.

Consider where you are with this. Have you had enough? Is it time to make the changes to turn it around? This will probably mean you will need to step out of your comfort zone, but remember, you are in charge of how and when this takes place. 

Empower yourself. Is it time to give yourself this opportunity?  What could be gained for yourself and the situation? What do you really want to have happen?



There are many more Es that can help with resolving conflicts:

Empathise with yourself for the stress you are under
Educate yourself in new and opening ways
Emancipate yourself by taking ownership and action
Experience feelings of freedom and accomplishment




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